With all my camp counseling and
camp directing experience, I’ve worked with a number of kids who were homesick.
This has made me realize that when homesickness is severe, it’s more than just
missing the comforts of home. It’s more than just missing mom and dad. Kids
affected by severe homesickness find it very hard to function. They may even
have physical symptoms, such as upset stomachs or headaches.
Our strategy is usually to help
the camper get through one day or even one activity at a time. A week is too
long for the camper to think about, but maybe we can get through one activity,
engaging ourselves in the activity and being part of the camp atmosphere.
This usually works. The camper
manages to make it to the end of the week, feels loved and supported by campers
and counselors, and proud of their own accomplishment of lasting the whole
week. They’ve gained a new sense of independence and maturity, and even though
they are happy to go home, they also look forward to returning to camp the
following summer.
But one time, a few years back,
there was this one camper who had a case of homesickness more severe than any I
had ever seen. He was in tears constantly. And the surprising thing is that
this was a middle school camp; most cases of homesickness that I’ve experienced
are at younger ages, but this kid was practically a teenager, yet the
experience of being away from home for a week was just too much.
I worked with him, helping him
through one activity at a time. Occasionally there would even be a smile on his
face. But the tears quickly returned.
Eventually I made a decision
that I never thought I’d make as a camp director, and that was the decision to
let this kid go home. It wasn’t getting better for him. He was crying himself
to sleep each night. And I didn’t want his only memory of camp to be miserable.
When I called his parents, they
said they were expecting my call, and that they were surprised that I hadn’t
called sooner.
A few hours later the parents
arrived to pick this camper up and take him home. He was all smiles now. He
said he had fun at camp, but that he just missed being at home too much.
Whether or not you’ve ever
experienced this kind of homesickness, there is a homesickness that we all
feel. There is this longing in the human soul that is common to all people.
It often feels like a kind of
restlessness. Sometimes it feels like loneliness or isolation, a longing or
sadness, or even a kind of depression.
We see this in the Bible. The
story of Abraham: he left Ur and went to Canaan, then he traveled on to Egypt
but soon returned back to Canaan. His grandson, Jacob, took his sons and their
families to Egypt because of famine, but by the time of their descendant Moses,
there was a longing to return back out of Egypt to the Promised Land. And then,
later, the captivity in Babylon, and again the deep longing to return home.
Yet the leaving home in the
first place is necessary. Just like going to camp; we must leave home in order
to discover ourselves, discover who we are. When Jesus called his disciples, he
led them away from home, and taught them, often as they were walking from place
to place.
And it is when we leave home
that we discover just how important home is. It wasn’t until she left home that
Dorothy realized that home is where she really wanted to be – not in some far
off land over the rainbow.
Until we can find God in ourselves…
Until we can find ourselves in God…
We are homesick.
I’m sure you’ve experienced that
spiritual restlessness that I’m talking about. I myself have felt that the
faith that I long for is inside a simple room, yet I am just standing at the
window looking in from the outside. How I long to climb through that window and
live in that room, experiencing the entire height and depth of faithful living!
This is our longing to be home
in a spiritual sense.
The thing is, on this spiritual
journey home, we are always looking for shortcuts, aren’t we? And we are always
getting distracted. The yellow brick road may lead us one way, but look:
there’s a beautiful field full of poppies. It is both a shortcut and a distraction!
Our shortcuts and distractions
take the form of addictions. And addiction to substances is only one type of
addiction. Many of us are addicted to electronic distractions. The TV always
has to be on, or we always have to be checking our facebook or snapchat. Or, we
try to fill this emptiness, this longing, this restlessness, with shopping
trips, thinking that new clothes, a new outfit, a new car, a new iPhone, a new
house, will fill the emptiness within.
We’re always looking for
something we don’t have, to make our life complete. A new boyfriend or
girlfriend. A new pet. A new job.
Maybe we need to go on a cruise
– will that fill the emptiness we feel?
You feel that restlessness,
don’t you?
But where is God in all this?
How do we find God?
The first thing to understand is
that God is not in these superficial distractions. There is no shortcut to God.
You have to go the long way.
Jesus is no expert on how to
fish. However, this story isn’t really about fish. It’s about finding God. And
the first thing to know about finding God is that God is not found in the
shallow, superficial distractions of life. God is found in the depths.
And, in order to find God, you
have to embark on a journey. “When the disciples had brought their boats to
shore, they left everything and followed Jesus.”
To be whole in your soul means
finding your home in God; and finding your home in God is a life-long journey.
To be whole in your soul means
going deep. We need to recognize our distractions and addictions for what they
are, and set them aside. We need to recognize that so much of life is
superficial, at the surface, and look for ways to really go deep. We need to
pray, even if our prayer is nothing more than sitting silently in the presence
of God. We need to read the Bible, and talk with others about what we’ve read.
We need to engage in all the other spiritual disciplines that lead us along the
path.
These things will help guide us
on our journey. Dorothy had guides to help her make the journey, did she not?
Our guides include the church, the sacraments, and most of all the Spirit. The
Spirit guides us. The Spirit prays for us when we don’t know how to pray
ourselves. The Spirit is our Advocate and our companion.
Augustine said: “Our hearts are
restless until they find rest in Thee.” We long for God. We are homesick. But
on the journey to find ourselves in God and find God in ourselves, we have the
Spirit to guide us, if we will but take the time to listen, and let the Spirit
lead.
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