Tristan
turns 11 this week. Later this month,
Ethan will turn 15. Hard to believe. Quite often, I am startled to catch a glimpse
of a maturity in them that I didn’t know was there, a glimpse of the men they
are becoming. And, like any parent, I
wonder: How am I helping them progress
into manhood, and how am I keeping them in childhood, holding them back?
In
the movie Finding Nemo, Marlin
experiences this in regards to Nemo, his son.
Tragedy in the past has made Marlin extra-protective
of Nemo, to the point that he tries too
hard to protect him from every possible source of harm. He says to Nemo: “What’s the one thing we have to remember
about the ocean? It’s not safe.”
Nemo,
like any growing, developing, maturing child, needs to experience life and have
adventure in order to become the adult that he is destined to be, in order to find
his place in the world.
Which
brings me to another animated movie: In The Little Mermaid, King Triton faces
the same dilemma regarding his daughter, Ariel.
He tries to keep her his “little girl,” and in the process stifling her
individuality and her development into an adult.
Both
Marlin and King Triton eventually learn how to nurture their children in ways
that honor the adults that they are becoming.
They learn how to encourage their children to greatness, rather than
holding them back, keeping them in the playpen – or, in Nemo’s case, on the
sponge beds.
It
is a constant balancing act, and not just for parents. Churches and communities have a part in this,
too.
Jesus
grew up in Nazareth, where he learned how to be a carpenter. Nazareth was a very small village. It wasn’t like nearby Sepphoris. Sepphoris, on a ridge so that its buildings
could be seen from Nazareth, was a thriving city, bustling with trade. It was also a city with a lot of
construction; when Jesus was just a tiny child, an uprising in Sepphoris led to
massacres and destruction of much of the city by Roman soldiers. So as Jesus grew from a boy into a man in
Nazareth, nearby Sepphoris was going through a rebuilding phase. It’s likely that Jesus and his father Joseph
sold many of their doors and other woodworks to the builders in Sepphoris.
Nazareth
was a much quieter, more humble town than Sepphoris. And as much as we may romanticize it, being a
carpenter or woodworker was not all that glamorous. Carpenters were members of the artisan class,
and artisans were of a very low state, lower even than peasants. Out on the street, it’s possible Jesus was
taunted or made fun of, because his dad was a carpenter.
I
wouldn’t be surprised if the young men growing up in Nazareth dreamed of
escaping their small town, of doing something big with their lives, something
too big to be confined to Nazareth alone.
But as they grew older, those dreams died down as they faced the reality
of a world under Roman rule, where it is best, actually, to keep quiet and
hidden in a small, inconspicuous, humble little town like Nazareth.
Well,
Jesus did leave Nazareth. When he was
twelve, he journeyed with his parents to the temple in Jerusalem. They travelled in a group, with family and
friends, for safety, and even though they were on a pilgrimage, they tried to
keep themselves invisible.
Except
for Jesus. On the return trip, back to
Nazareth, his parents couldn’t find him, so they went back to Jerusalem where
they found him sitting in the temple, teaching.
Teaching! Drawing attention to himself!
“Jesus,
what are you doing? We’ve been looking
everywhere for you?”
So
Jesus returned to Nazareth and grew into an adult. And evidently kept pretty quiet. Until…
Jesus
had a cousin named John, a pretty radical guy, who lived out in the wilderness
and preached about the kingdom of God.
He didn’t keep very quiet, but he also kept far away from the centers of
population. However, groups of people
travelled out to hear him and to be baptized by him.
And
among those who went to John was Jesus.
Then
Jesus began his own ministry of teaching and healing and proclaiming the
kingdom of God. People were amazed by
his authority, and we think of his authority as a good thing, but some who
heard him thought he was drawing too much attention to himself.
When
he returned to Nazareth, he taught, he preached, and he did some healing. He wasn’t the quiet, humble carpenter
anymore. And for some people, this was
too much.
After
all, who did he think he was? Someone
important?
No,
they knew who he was: he was nothing but
a carpenter. They had watched him grow
up! They had watched him play and run
around with his brothers and sisters. They
had chastised him when he ran through the marketplace, they had given him
support when his father passed away, and did their village best in guiding him
to take his place in the community, in Nazareth, among the people, doing what
he was expected to do.
But
now he was there, acting like someone important.
Well,
he might have fooled those folks in the other towns of Galilee, but he couldn’t
fool them. They knew who he was. And they figured it was about time he remembered who he was: just a kid from Nazareth, a lowly
carpenter. Nothing more.
Have
you ever had someone try to put you in your place like this? It can be really discouraging.
Nemo’s
dad Marlin was just trying to protect him.
King Triton was just trying to protect his daughter Ariel. Both went a bit overboard, but had the best of
intentions.
Maybe
the people in Nazareth had the best of intentions, too. It was a dangerous world they lived in; maybe
they were just trying to protect Jesus.
Or
maybe they were trying to protect themselves.
Or maybe
they were jealous of Jesus, that he
was actually able to follow through on the dream they all shared, and break
free from Nazareth.
I
guess it’s complicated. But they did
succeed in bringing him down. Even
Jesus, it seems, can be brought down.
Even Jesus can be ridiculed, bullied, and put down enough so that he is
no longer able to fulfill his calling.
I
know, that contradicts just about everything I have come to believe about
Jesus, but did you notice what happened to Jesus after his townsfolk brought
him down?
The
scripture said: “He could do no deed of
power there…”
The
people of Nazareth – whatever their intentions – kept Jesus from fulfilling his
role. They kept him from achieving the
work that he was called to do. They kept
him, temporarily, from finding his place in the world.
One
of the most important things parents can do – and one of the most important
things we in the church can do – is encourage one another to greatness. At our best, this is what we do, but there
are times when we give in to the temptation to bring each other down or put
someone in their place; times when our discouraging words keep people from
achieving the greatness they are capable of.
Fortunately,
I have had the opportunity to be a part of churches that do encourage their
members to greatness. These churches
have been especially good at encouraging their youth to greatness.
One
of the joys of facebook is being able to keep up with the lives of some young
adults who were once youth in churches I’ve served. Some of them have gotten married, started families
of their own; and yes, sometimes that does make me feel old.
But
when I read of what they are doing, how they are living their lives, and how
they are using the gifts God has given them to make a difference in the world,
I am filled with joy and satisfaction.
They are speaking out for peace and justice. They are in college, majoring in fields that
are more about serving humanity than they are about gaining wealth for
oneself. They are defending and
supporting leaders in government who have pledged to work for equality. They are marching in peaceful protests, and
taking part in the Occupy Movement.
In
short, they are working to bring wholeness to a fragmented world. On days when ministry gets discouraging, it
lifts my heart to hear about how the youth I’ve pastored or counseled at church
camp are making a difference. What more
could I ask for?
I
got to see a different side of this phenomenon last Saturday during Miracle
Week. On the last night of their Miracle
Week experience, the participants in the youth program were treated to a
concert that was put on by the Rock the Loch organizers.
I
am one of the Rock the Loch organizers, and for those of you who don’t know,
Rock the Loch is an annual, all-day music festival at our church camp, Loch
Leven. This year that concert is on
Saturday, September 22. Make sure you
have September 22 marked on your calendars.
At
our little “mini-concert” last Saturday, Doc Rogers and his band performed an
energetic rock concert in the beautifully ornate gothic-revival sanctuary of
McCarty Memorial Christian Church in Los Angeles. In between the songs of praise, Doc shared a
little bit about his past, including the time when he was a teenager known as
Dustin, who one day found himself at a place called Bixby Knolls Christian
Church.
He
says he was pretty wild and rambunctious back then. He told the kids that if you’ve seen the new
movie Rock of Ages, that was
him. He had very long hair, and clothing
that was intentionally ripped and frayed, and just had a wild look about him.
But
the people of Bixby Knolls Christian Church, he said, didn’t care about
that. They loved him anyway. They accepted him. They showered him with God’s love and let him
know that they were glad he was present with them.
How
many years ago was that? Some of you
know. You were here.
All
these years later, Doc is still talking
about it. He’s still sharing the
experience he had here, and how it
changed his life. And now, he’s playing
concerts all over the place, telling people about God’s love for them, the same
love he experienced here at Bixby Knolls Christian Church.
Every
day, every moment, is a wonderful opportunity to let someone know that they are
loved, to encourage them to use the spiritual gifts within them, to live the
life that God is calling them to lead.
One week from now, we have a remarkable opportunity to do for several
dozen youth the same thing this congregation did for Doc and so many others, to
let them know that they are loved, and that God has a purpose for their
lives. We’re just one week away from
Vacation Bible School, and I hope you will take seriously the task of inviting families you know to participate in
what really is a life-changing event for so many of our children and youth.
This
week, there is nothing you can do for the church that is more important than
inviting people to Vacation Bible School, where they will experience the
unconditional love of God.
When
we encourage our young people – and when we encourage one another – we bring
out the greatness, the goodness, that is in each one of us; the spark of the
divine with which each of us was created.
The
people of Nazareth discouraged Jesus and brought him down, and as a result, he
could do no deed of power among them. We
are called to encourage people and lift them up, so that God’s power can shine
through them. When we do that, we and
they together find the healing,
wholeness, and salvation, which is God’s vision for humanity and the world.
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