This is my third and final sermon about what the Bible says about gender and gender identity… I picked this scripture because of what Jesus says in the last verse; but before I get to that, let me give some attention to the rest of this passage, where he talks about divorce.
It is, as Jesus says, a hard teaching.
Now, no one really likes divorce. No one dreams of getting divorced one day.
Yet divorce is something that many in our society have experienced—either themselves, or someone in their family. Divorce is often challenging, and sometimes painful, but it is also, for many, a necessary step to healing and wholeness.
Yet Jesus seems very much against divorce, in all but the most extreme circumstances.
Well. It helps to understand why Jesus was so against divorce. Jesus was against divorce mainly because Jesus always sought to protect the vulnerable. And in the first century, a woman whose husband had divorced her, would be left very vulnerable.
In the first century, only the husband could initiate a divorce. And if a man divorced his wife, he would leave her extremely vulnerable. She’d become like a widow, with no male relative to support her.
For the divorced woman, there would be no spousal support. No alimony. She’d end up on the street, forced to support herself any way she could… any way she could. There’s a good chance she’d become a beggar. Or a prostitute.
So, in the first century, to divorce one’s wife, and sentence her to that type of life, would be a cruel and selfish act.
Marriage and divorce are not the same today. Both are more mutual. Either the husband or the wife could initiate the divorce. And sometimes, divorce is necessary to protect a vulnerable party. Divorce in the first century always left a woman more vulnerable, but divorce today often helps a vulnerable woman become less vulnerable… and divorce today can, when necessary, lead to healing and wholeness for both the husband and the wife.
Jesus’ compassion, and his desire to protect the vulnerable, are things that remain consistent across time. We are called to have just as much compassion for the vulnerable today as Jesus had 2,000 years ago.
When Jesus met a woman who admitted she had been married five times, he did not condemn her, but instead showed her great compassion.
So while Jesus would still encourage faithfulness and loyalty, and would encourage many couples to stay in marriage, Jesus’s compassion, and his desire for healing and wholeness, would lead him to say that some divorces are necessary, and perhaps even good, in order to protect the vulnerable, or to allow healing and wholeness to take place.
This, I believe, is a view that is consistent with scripture, because it is consistent with the compassion of Christ, and it is consistent with God’s call for us to seek healing and wholeness for ourselves and for others.
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Now let me talk about the last verse of today’s scripture…
In that last verse, Jesus talks about eunuchs.
To be honest, I never paid much attention to this. It could be that listening to someone talk about eunuchs just makes me just a little uncomfortable.
So I always skimmed over it… and, in doing so, I missed something very interesting.
What I missed, and what I now find so interesting, is that Jesus talks about three kinds of eunuchs.
(Three kinds of eunuchs? I didn’t know there were three kinds of eunuchs!)
Jesus talks about eunuchs who have been eunuchs from birth, and eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by other people, and eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs because of the kingdom of heaven.
And now this is the part where I have to explain in a little more detail just what these three types of eunuchs are.
A eunuch, generally speaking, is a man who has been castrated, typically before puberty. Usually, this was done so that the eunuch could be an attendant or guard in a royal court or harem, where their inability to father children was seen as a guarantee of loyalty. And because this was done before puberty, eunuchs often had more feminine traits, such as voices that never lowered, and less facial and body hair.
So that explains those who have been made eunuchs by other people. But what about those who have made themselves eunuchs? And, especially, what about those who have been eunuchs from birth?
What does that even mean, to be a eunuch from birth?
Well, to state the obvious, it means they were born that way. It means they were born with genitalia that somehow didn’t match their biological sex.
It means they are intersex, which is a rare but natural occurrence.
I looked up intersex on WebMD, where I learned that 1% to 2% of the population has intersex traits. That makes being intersex more common than having red hair or being an identical twin. Statistically, it is likely that one or two people in this room are intersex.
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An intersex cardinal is a major character in the movie Conclave. The movie is a work of fiction, and having an intersex cardinal seemed a bit far-fetched at the time I saw it, but now that I’ve done my research, I realize it may not be quite as far-fetched as I thought.
Statistically speaking, it is likely that at least one of the 133 cardinals in a conclave would be intersex.
Being intersex is not a disorder or a disease... At one time, doctors would perform surgery on a child born with intersex characteristics, to try to “correct” what was then seen as a “problem,” but that is a practice that is now discouraged.
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Two weeks ago I mentioned that the ancient rabbis recognized at least seven different genders. In today’s scripture, we find out that Jesus is aware of individuals who do not fit neatly into the category of male or female…and he mentions them without judgment… perhaps remembering that the prophet Isaiah spoke affirmatively and welcomingly to eunuchs, saying in Isaiah 56: “the Lord says… I will give [eunuchs] a monument, and a name better than sons and daughters. I will give to them an enduring name that won’t be removed.”
The passage where Jesus speaks about eunuchs is yet another scripture passage demonstrating a greater complexity in gender and gender identity, and for that reason I find this passage fascinating. Especially since I read scripture for so long not expecting to find such things in scripture, and reading right over them, and not even seeing what was right there in front of me, on the pages of my Bible.
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This is the third week in a row I’ve preached on the Bible’s complex view of gender. You’re probably ready for me to move on to some other topic. TBH, I’m ready for something else myself.
But the reason I felt compelled to preach on this three weeks in a row is to show that scripture’s embrace of gender diversity isn’t limited to just one or two obscure passages. It appears throughout the Bible.
In fact, there are many more passages I could have included, and many more weeks we could have spent on this.
For example, several articles I’ve read talk about how Mordecai—Esther’s cousin—displays nonbinary behavior when it comes to gender. Maybe I’ll preach about that someday, after I read and learn a little more.
And then there are other ways that Jesus himself didn’t behave in ways that a person of his gender were expected to behave. When he spoke to the woman at the well, for example: it wasn’t right for a man to speak with a woman like that. A person could have initiated a conversation with a woman if the person were a woman herself. Jesus was not a woman; yet that did not stop him.
This has led one commentator to wonder if Jesus, in speaking to this woman, allowed himself to take on a more feminine role, or if he shifted how he perceived this woman, moving her into a more masculine role, in order to allow for this conversation?
Or was he simply blurring the line that divides men and women, male and female, creating a space that was neither exclusively male or female?
And I’ve read commentators who’ve written about Paul’s command to not be conformed to this age, but be transformed. Paul speaks often of transformation, of becoming something new, and why shouldn’t gender be included in that transformation? Paul himself also said that, in Christ, there is no longer male and female, for all are one in Christ.
It all gives you something to think about.
And while all this is about gender, it’s also about more than just gender.
Humans often see only two options in the world. This, or that. You’re one, or the other. Black or white. Gay or straight. Christian or non-Christian. Democrat or Republican. Good or bad. Right or wrong.
You’re always one or the other. You’re either this, or that. And we allow no space in between, and no other option.
To quote Gaston when he attacked the Beast’s castle: “If you’re not with us, you’re against us.” (That’s also in the Bible, but the Bible also presents an alternative: “Whoever is not against us is for us.”)
Scripture often presents a third option when it appears there are only two. In this sermon series we’ve learned that scripture often shows that there are more ways to express oneself or to identify oneself when it comes to gender.
But Jesus often presents a third, unexpected option in many other ways. In fact, Jesus’ whole life is a third option, an option that breaks the binary, when it comes to how one is to respond to Roman oppression.
See, most people assumed that one either had to go along with Rome, or take up arms and fight against Rome.
But Jesus didn’t like either of those options. To go along with Rome was unacceptable, as Rome was oppressive; Rome acted in ways that deprived people of life and harmony; Rome worked against God’s vision of a kingdom of shalom, a beloved community.
So going along with Rome wasn’t an option.
Most people would say, well, the only other option is to fight against Rome. The problem is that fighting against Rome was futile; Rome was just too powerful. And fighting itself—using violence—is contrary to God’s vision for the world.
But Jesus talked about a third way.
Jesus said that one could live in God’s kingdom of shalom now, that one didn’t need to wait. “The kingdom of God is among you,” he said. Right now. If you believe it.
And living in that kingdom of God was, itself, a form of resistance against Rome. A form of nonviolent resistance.
Living with love in a world of hate. Living with peace in a world of violence. And working for justice in a world where so many were denied justice.
Where the world saw only two options, Jesus lived and taught a third way… and that is what drew so many to him.
I’m reminded of the camp curriculum we used this summer at Camp Walter Scott. The theme for the curriculum was “Another Way.” Jesus shows us a way that is a third way, an option most didn’t even realize was an option.
Learning that gender can be expressed in more than just the two ways we are used to thinking of can help us better understand the third way of being in the world Jesus represents. It helps us realize a whole new way of being in the world, a way more closely aligned with how Jesus calls us to live.
One reason why American Christians find it so hard to actually follow the way of Jesus is that we have this mindset in which we question whether Jesus is calling us to live this way or that way, without realizing that he’s calling us to something completely different, a way of living that is neither this nor that, but an entirely different third option that isn’t even on the same spectrum.
It’s like we imagine our choices as existing along a straight line that goes to the left and to the right, and asking where on that line Jesus is calling us to, but in reality, Jesus is calling us off the line, into a whole new dimension.
That’s just hard for us to imagine.
But opening our minds up to the different ways scripture presents gender and gender identity can help open our minds to other possibilities, all the possibilities that exist in God’s kingdom.